Well, let's start with my very first boyfriend, Andy. We "went out" in middle school....you know..to the movies with a huge group of friends, passing cute love notes in school between classes or sneaking out of class just to wave at him in the hallway while he was in another class...that kind of relationship. He was my first love...the one that you will always remember. Every time I think of how I felt about him, I hope that when I meet the guy that I'm meant to be with, I'll feel the same way. My love for him was genuine with no stipulations...all I wanted from him was to be with him, to see his beautiful blue eyes, to laugh with him, to make out with him forever (oh those hormones! lol). I just feel like love changes as we grow older...maybe it is because of my past experiences (which you will soon find out what I mean), but I feel like love is tainted or maybe it just becomes more about practicality. We start to look for certain characteristics...they must have a great job, they must have at least a bachelor's degree, they must be able to travel with me and take me on trips, and even sometimes thinking...."Is his genetics good...I mean, I really don't want my kids growing up and having a history of heart disease, like the rest of his family.." Don't get me wrong, I think that these are all important and these are definitely some of the criteria I use now when I am dating....but, sometimes, I just feel like it's wrong to think that way...I think I'm just jaded.
Anyway, back to Andy...I really loved him. I mean, thought we were going to ride off into the sunset, get married, and live happily ever after (by the way, thanks Disney for giving me false hope about love and guys LOL)..I don't know. Things change. I mean, really, how many people marry their middle school/high school sweetheart (exception being Sara and Kyle who I love dearly)? Well, on the back of my Herbal Essences shampoo bottle it says 2 our of 5 people marry their first love...I would really like to see the actual statistics on that. That will not be happening for me.
See, we broke up after I finished 8th grade, because I thought...well we are going to different schools, he'll be in another town, and there will be so many more new and awesome experiences with guys....I really regretted that decision for a while, because that was the last time that things ever really worked out for us. Throughout high school, when both of us weren't dating anyone, we'd end up fooling around...but it just never worked out, because by the time he realized he wanted to be with me again, I'd be in a relationship or vice versa....
Then I went to college and we talked throughout my freshman year. But then something happened, I didn't hear from him for a while my Sophmore year and found out THROUGH A MUTUAL FRIEND (which I was very angry about) that he was getting married....married in MAY! MAY...our month!
Well, I guess we just outgrew each other. I wanted to pursue Marine Biology and leave Rhode Island and he went into the Marines, got married quickly, and had a child just as quick....He told me once that I "abandoned" him...right, cause going to college means that I will be gone forever! Andy was one of those platform butterfly bamboo shoes...you know the ones I'm talking about that were popular in middle school with the soft black material on top and a blue butterfly embroidered on them. We all wore them with our bell bottom jeans, especially me, because they made me taller LOL! He was a pair of those shoes....shoes that you just outgrew, they went out of style...and sometimes you think about those shoes and you wish that that fashion would come back, but it just isn't going to happen....so you have to move on to another pair of shoes and stop thinking about them.
Funny Moments with Andy:
Alright, well just to give you a laugh, I'll tell you a few stories from my past with Andy!
The first thing I think of when I think of Andy was the time we all went to some movie...God knows what it was, because none of us were paying attention (if you know what I mean ;) )...but a big group of us, all sitting next to our significant others were watching this movie and I hear my friend say "Hey Reaching for Reefs, you want to play a game that's fun....put a junior mint in your mouth and then let Andy find it." I was like 'Ok.' So I did this...and we start making out and all the sudden, so the WHOLE theater could hear, Andy screams out "I found it! I got half of it!" There was another movie excursion where I actually tried to unbuckle his pants (I can't believe I was thinking about this in middle school)...anyway, I gave up because I couldn't get it undone and he wasn't helping, so nothing happened.
Oh yea, we were that couple that would make out anywhere and people would look at us and make faces and say things like "Oh my god...look at them...get a room!" LOL One time, we were at a party at my friend's house, and their mother literally had to pry me off of him, because my parents were there to pick me up.....I'm telling you..hormones gone wild!!!
Second thing I think of is when we were supposed to go sailing on his dad's sailboat and his dad couldn't get it started, so we were below deck making out and his brother kept coming down and bothering us...Andy was getting so mad, because his brother would not leave us alone! That was the first day I ever ever ever thought about having sex with a guy....
Third thing I think of was when I was in high school at a party (this was after I lost my virginity)...It was in the summer and Andy and I decided to ditch the party and sit in his truck in Paradise Park and just go at it....hah! I will never forget that...he was so impressed I could fit on top of him in that little truck cab...meanwhile, a few friends from the party were looking for us....walked right past us, but either ignored the fact that the windows were fogged up in the truck or really just didn't see us...ahhh what fun times!
Oh, another thing...I'll never forget his water bed! LOL
Well, I guess that's it for my buttefly bamboo platforms....
Until next time,
Reaching for Reefs
"anyway, I gave up because I couldn't get it undone and he wasn't helping, so nothing happened."
ReplyDeleteLOL I remember when this happened to me! In my case, however, the communication was severed soon after and I was left wondering (till today) what it might have been like! You know, "it" lmao.